Advice For Busy Women on How to Be a Bridesmaid

14:56 love 0 Comments

Being a bridesmaid can feel like a full-time job, one that sucks up all your free time and laughs at the funds in your savings account. Even if you've been a bridesmaid more times than you can count on one hand or you're at it for the very first time, the role is one that may have you glued to email chains of bachelorette party plans and have you blocking out chunks of dates on your calendar for prewedding festivities.

But just because you're a bridesmaid and you're all gung-ho about giving the position your all doesn't mean that other areas of your life are going to slow down or stop because you're part of the bride's gal-pal pact.

So if you're wondering how to fit being a bridesmaid into your already jam-packed schedule, here are five ways to help make that happen, no matter how busy or chaotic your life is at the moment.

1. Don't Make It Your Second Full-Time Job

When you're starting to notice that every free moment you have is being occupied with bridesmaid tasks, texts, and to-do list items, it's important to take a step back. Carve out an hour or two a week to take care of things you may need to do as a bridesmaid, whether that's help the maid of honor plan the bachelorette party or take the bride out for Happy Hour so she can vent about any and all wedding annoyances.

2. Cut Out the Group Texts and Email Chains

Take yourself off group texts and email chains. If you're on those, you'll start to feel like your phone and your inbox are hijacked by wedding talk, all the time. Instead, ask the bridal party to limit back-and-forth communication and set a time, like Sunday night at 9 p.m., for everyone to hop on the phone and make mutual decisions together.

3. Keep Online Organized

Upload all reservations, itineraries, or notes that you have about the wedding and the bachelorette party in one spot, virtually, so you can access it when you're on the go. You don't want to waste time combing through 100 emails and a long archive of Facebook messages to find out important information when you need it in a pinch.

4. Embrace Saying the Word No

Seriously, say it. Practice right now. NO. Don't feel bummed or guilty for saying no to things as a bridesmaid that you can't afford, don't want to do, or don't have the time to complete. It's better that you are upfront and honest about what you're able to handle than to become a flaky bridesmaid halfway through.

5. Don't Become "Always the Bridesmaid"

If you notice that your life feels heavier than usual, try not to say yes to being a bridesmaid for more than one friend or family member at a time. The more weddings you say yes to, the more your savings account, social calendar, and stress levels will be depleted.